If you ask my opinion as a parent, and a medical practitioner, I would say the ideal age for girls should be 16+ and boys 19+. that would prevent a lot of eloping, unnecessary experimentation leading to batches of unwed mothers waiting for abortion at clinics,and a high rise in the number of HIV carriers.
Wont the kids make mistakes? Of course, they will. But at least, they will have plenty of time to rectify them selves, and to go on with life. This hush-hush subterfuge and hypocrasy about mating would end healthily. Besides, in lower economy circle, the legal age is not abided by in 90% of cases. The more we move away from nature's cyclea, more huge the problems become. Once sex becomes something ordinary and a chore like brushing and bathing, the media hype would stop confusing the young minds. After all, it was not invented at Newyork, packaged in Hollywood and delivered to the third world countries. The earlier we can convey this to young minds , the better.
Then, our moral caretakers would stop chirping their hypocritic protests about sex education and health education too.Surely, married couples could not be barred from a doctor's counselling? Then, if the kids think they do not want to stay togather? There should be sympathetic and easy way to help them take necessary legal actions.Instead of this legal and straight way, what we are having is so-called dating and affairs, which are no less intense than a marriage but always with the leery shadow of being out-of-wedlock. It breeds lack of mutual respect, absence of a responsible approach towards a physical relation, and young minds shrink with a guilty feeling ;tainting the very beautiful feeling of a love's first awakening.
Friday, October 1, 2010
the mind
Our mind is a wonderful instrument, but we take it too much for granted. No one takes much care about its nutrition, hygiene, or even proper growth charting. Strange, because, it is the mind which actually moves about as an entity, carrying the body along with it.We measure small portions of it, as memory, learning capabilities in school, retention of coordinating power of muscles,but few of us really take a look at the bigger picture.
I wonder why? Are we afraid deep down to face the awsome intangible creature inside the puny body?The body is much more easier to grasp and control by mortal average intelligence. Consequently, little is done to make a little mind grow up properly. We feed the body, you know, helping it to grow taller , stronger,even better performer in various fields, but do we ever consciously feed the mind with healthy food?
How many parents actively teach a tddler to sit and concentrate beside learning alphabets and rhymes? Do teachers advice parents to make their children sit quietly for few minutes with them and talk about their feelings about the various events of the day? Do the grownups discuss the mental reactions of a child to various happenings in their life?
We hardly ever take time for that. It is always," run honey, we'll be late for school ; don't talk now your homework is waiting, ok , let me come back from office we'll talk at night, and then, oh, baby, go to sleep now, we'll be late for the event,can't you see.."We think a kiss a hug will be enough to build a growing mind along with the fresh food and vitamins.
But it is never enough. The child's mind needs answers abut other people's behaviour and a guideline to deal with them, they need ways to learn the ethical and rational points of view, they need answers about the different reactions of their growing bodies.Poor kids, they are left alone to face the media, the frightening adult world and their own growing physique all alone. Isn't it high time for parents to awake up and sit to gather to teach peace and strength to the young minds?
I wonder why? Are we afraid deep down to face the awsome intangible creature inside the puny body?The body is much more easier to grasp and control by mortal average intelligence. Consequently, little is done to make a little mind grow up properly. We feed the body, you know, helping it to grow taller , stronger,even better performer in various fields, but do we ever consciously feed the mind with healthy food?
How many parents actively teach a tddler to sit and concentrate beside learning alphabets and rhymes? Do teachers advice parents to make their children sit quietly for few minutes with them and talk about their feelings about the various events of the day? Do the grownups discuss the mental reactions of a child to various happenings in their life?
We hardly ever take time for that. It is always," run honey, we'll be late for school ; don't talk now your homework is waiting, ok , let me come back from office we'll talk at night, and then, oh, baby, go to sleep now, we'll be late for the event,can't you see.."We think a kiss a hug will be enough to build a growing mind along with the fresh food and vitamins.
But it is never enough. The child's mind needs answers abut other people's behaviour and a guideline to deal with them, they need ways to learn the ethical and rational points of view, they need answers about the different reactions of their growing bodies.Poor kids, they are left alone to face the media, the frightening adult world and their own growing physique all alone. Isn't it high time for parents to awake up and sit to gather to teach peace and strength to the young minds?
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